KDU-

You have worked so hard to get to this point sweetie and you are doing such an amazing job right now. I know how draining this must be. This reconciliation phase wont last forever...things are improving and you are getting many positive steps from H. If you feel really exhausted and need a break, then take one. But don't backslide, sweetie. You've worked too hard for this. H will be better able to meet your needs one of these days. Right now he is on his way. He has ended the A (HUGE!!!), he is trying very hard to understand being trustworthy and communicating to you regarding OW, he is telling you he wants to make this work and is willing to do the effort, he is not defending what he's done...all this is huge, Kim!
Be strong, baby girl. This won't last forever and you have worked way to hard to get here. Dig deep. And love yourself. And come here to vent your frustrations. And of course, for validation...that makes such a difference in how we feel doesn't it? To have someone that can love and understand and appreciate us. We love you Kim, we appreciate just how much you are doing...it's amazing to hear about Kim. Your fortitude is inspirational. I'm so very proud of you. Sending lots of hugs and good thoughts your way.