You are doing so very very well. I know that where you are now is really the challenging part. Your transitioning from ultimate DB tactics to letting him back in, true communication about your feelings and detaching some. It's hard to balance going at his pace, keeping some of those thoughts and emotions to yourself and to opening up with him. To go from zero expectations to having some expectations of what he does to make it work. It's a real balancing act and you are really doing an incredible job. I am so proud of you! I know you are wondering if this is worth it, if this effort is going to lead to the R you desire. That you are afraid that he'll disappoint you. Really, Kim, your H is moving along well. It seems like a long time, but stop thinking about this in a time line based upon when the bomb dropped. Start thinking about this with a new time line as to when you guys have really started to try to work it out. It's really just started. Be patient. I know 9 months feels like a long, long time. But it isn't. And in one year, things between you and H maybe will have progressed tremendously. And that is not too far off and it is worth having the man you love, the R you desire, the father of your kids in your family. Hang in there. So far, I can only see positives from your H. Be patient. You are doing so very well. Don't get worn down. Keep taking care of you. I'm proud of you Kim. You are a very strong and amazing woman and your H is so lucky to have you, and he knows that.
