Quote: we only see each other twice or three times a week and as for quality time well that is maybe once a week.
KDU, that's actually a good thing!!!! When my H had an awakening, he wanted to see me everyday and I thought that wasn't healthy. I even hid somewhere in the street until he left the house Turned out, my H overwhelmed himself... He told me he started having doubts again because it was too much, too soon. I then explained to him that HE was the one initiating the contact; I was actually avoiding it.
There is a part of DR that talks about it: that when your H has an awakening, things should restart slow (it's after the last resort technique).
So I think it is important to set the pace, start dating each other again and not expect phone calls and too much contact. Actually, it would be EVEN better if you weren't there to pick up the phone calls because you were busy with something more interesting or not accept a date because you already have plans.
Maybe what you need is to gain more control. It seems like he is the one setting the pace.
Turned out, my H overwhelmed himself... He told me he started having doubts again because it was too much, too soon. I then explained to him that HE was the one initiating the contact; I was actually avoiding it. 