Kim-Things sound really positive in your sitch right now. I really don't have any advice to give, but I think you are doing an outstanding job.
I know what you are talking about with the barriers. Right now, mine are up so high I don't know if they will come down, which is sad because H says he really wants to work on M.
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years