Kismet, Yoyo, Beth and BB thankyou all for your support as my thread was locking up, so here we are onto another one....
Update....
O.K. let's see if I can pick this up where I left off. I think the last thing I said was H had told me he had told OW that him and I were working on our M....
Well then he tells me that he still has one little problem with OW....keep reading before you judge as I know you are all going to have the same reaction....... M: What is that H: Well before we were back together I told OW I would escort her to her niece's wedding in early December. M: Yeah and that is a problem how? H: B/c OW still wants me to take her and b/c I promised I feel I should still go. This is the last thing and then I am free of her. M: silence.....(Had no idea what to say as was mad as hell) H: Are you O.K. M: Mmmmm just thinking about it, why would she still want you to partner her if she knows about us? H: I don't really know but I think it is b/c her parents are going too and her Dad cannot get into her car so we were taking mine, I don't think her Dad can go if he doesn't go in my car. M: Right could you lend her your car. H: Kim I made a promise M: Yes when you were single and we are talking about something that is a month away, different if it was next week H: Look I know you are not happy about this and I can understand why but I have to do it Anyway it went on for abit and I really felt uncomfortable for two reasons:
1: I didn't feel it showed my H would put me and my concerns before OW which made me very worried 2: I don't trust OW and knew this was just a way for her to stay in control.
Anyhow I left it alone for a couple of days so I could think it over and on Sunday I was at H's place and had another talk about it something like this M: H I still don't feel comfortable about this wedding thing H: I know M: Well I was thinking, what if I spoke to OW and just asked the question of why she would want you to go? H: You can ask her if you want M: Really that wouldn't bother you H: Why would it, I am being honest, I promised to take her and I am going to stand by that promise unless she says she doesn't want me to go. M: O.K. well we will see
OW would you believe then rings H's mobile within 5 mins of this convo. H looks at his phone and then looks at me... M: Answer it H: Hello H: Not much at the moment, Kim is here H: Well she actually wants to speak to you H then passes me the phone....... M: Hello OW: What the fu#k do you want M: Just to know why you would still want my H to go with you to a wedding when you know we are trying to mend our M. OW: I know you are putting back your M, but he and I organised this before he decided to give it another go with you and what business is it of yours anyhow M: It is all my business as he is still my H and we are together, I just don't understand how when he has told you it's over that you would still want him to escort you to a wedding. OW: Listen here, I know he has constantly not kept away from you and you have made damn sure he keeps coming back to you but he is coming to this wedding whether you like it or not. M: Well I think you are using emotional blackmail but if that's what you need then fine, but stop telling him you are going to commit suicide. OW: Put him on the fu#king phone I then said to H she wants you.... H: Hello OW rambles on about something and then hangs up on him.....
So nothing was really resolved at this point but I said to H look you do whatever you feel is right but I am not happy with this as i know she is just trying to keep her foot in the door. H didn't say anything and I said, why was she even ringing you tonight. H said well I don't know she never said. I said yes but she asked what you were up to so she obviously thought she might come over. H said she probably did but that he would have said no anyhow. Anyhow we chatted a bit more and I said I had to get home and he said he would see me in the morning for gym.
I left b/c I was so frustrated and I wanted to think this out. I knew I wasn't going to be able to live with him going to this wedding it just wasn't right. So I came up with an idea and thought I would put it to H and it would show me whether he was serious about us and just seeing out a promise and if he agreed I knew OW would not allow it. This is how it went.....
M: Hey I was thinking about this wedding thing H: Yes M: Well I know you want to stand by your promise and you know I have bad feelings about it, well I think I may have worked out a way that I can live with it. H: Yeah go on. M: Well what if you pick up her Mum & Dad & her and take them to Ballarat for the wedding, but I will travel up there on my own and book a Motel (a different one to them) and you can stay with me. H: Go on this might work. M: Well you drive them up there and then come to our Motel, spend some time with me get ready for the wedding, go and pick them up go to the wedding and reception and when reception is over you drop them all at their motel and come to me at my Motel. Then the next day you pick them up and bring them home and that is that. H: Yep that will be fine M: You know OW might not like it H: So that is how it will be that way I haven't broken my promise and I keep you happy too. So that was arranged and we went to gym and he hung around home for awhile later and then went home. He knew I was going out with Jarrod later.
Jarrod and I went out and then I got a call to my mobile from H saying he would meet us at the pub as he had something to tell me. He came and basically it was as I predicted OW had hit the roof when she heard the plan, called him all the names under the sun and swept everything off his kitchen table on her way out the door. I said to H does that mean the wedding is off. H said I guess it is. I said I did warn you she wouldn't like it and he said bad luck. So he stayed for a couple of drinks and then got going as he had to work as Security at the Melbourne Cup the next day and had an early start.
Jarrod and I continued our night out until about 1.30am. The next day I went out with the kids to a Cup Day Outing and during the afternoon my mobile starts going off with messages from OW.
They were rude, crude and mean as you would expect and I ignored them for awhile and then wrote a couple back in the end she backed away and I haven't heard from her since. Although Wednesday morning she rang H and said if your W tells you I sent her messages yesterday its all true.....and then hung up. H is at the "Oaks Day" Races today doing Security but apparently hasn't heard from her again.....
So that is my update in a nutshell....eventful hey. I believe OW is still going to cause more trouble but H and I have decided to try and just ignore her.
O.K. better go for anyone that is still reading this well done for hanging in there as it was a long post....
BB my love thankyou for explaining your version of Bold I much prefer it to my interpretation, you always make me feel good about myself so thankyou......
Tomorrow I will post about how all this makes me feel, don't worry it wont be that long a post......KDU
