Jo, We will figure it out soon, I know that if I am away from Dawn I don't miss her like I did before. Do I care about her of course, I still care about every girl or lady I was ever in love with. Yrs later I still go through a day here or ther that I miss them.
I need to be just close enough to see my children, but just far enough away she can not control me and my emotions. If I am with her my love grows for her but my anxiety goes through the roof, if I am away from her I dream of falling in love with a "sane" beautiful women.
The daily or almost daily contact we have with our Xes doesn't allow us to live our own life. I am not saying we have to move 100s of miles away, we are still parents of our children. Sometimes I feel they don't need us but they do. We have to have a part in their lives somehow without being controlled by our Xes.
