I see I have missed what has been a long day for you. I feel your pain, Dawn causes me the same anxiety that Andy causes you. I have been on Paxil for 10 yrs. I fell into a deep depression after she had an affair with one of my employees. I quit a good paying job (50K plus bonus in 1994) because of the affair. I had a new car, the van was paid money in stocks a 401k etc. Now my personal belongings could fit in two 19" tv boxes.
The emotional rollercoaster has never stopped since. If I didn't have children with her then I could start over much easier. She is unmedicated, un-C-ed bipolar, which makes life hell for everyone around her. My plan is to keep working on myself so that she can't keep me in this web, somehow Jo we have to stop their control over us.
I want to run too. But I have put 4yrs into this business and I think I going to turn the corner, not only save the business but become much more profitable this year.
I am going to say no to Dawn, I am going to try not to get angry when I do it and live my life how I want to. I was worried about her taking me to court, this and that, well thats going to stop. Maybe some how we can gain the strength to not let them put us under pressure.
Christmas she will invite me, unless she falls madly in love again before then. Of course I want a family to be together, but we are D and all it does is mess with my mind. This BS friendship thing, sometimes once every three months I am her "sex slave", once a yr for about two weeks she wants to be in love with me. Jo I for one don't want this anymore. I think I would not need Paxil if I didn't have to deal with her.
You know a move away from him might help, he couldn't use you so easily and you would see him less. What about a move that is temporary for now but if you like it could turn permanent. He might realize what he is messing up and straighten out, but I have my doubts. Dawn and Andy are really the sick and confused ones, but they think they are ok, don't need C, etc.
JO, YOU ARE AN AWESOME WOMEN!!! YOU HAVE A BRIGHTER FUTURE.
