I'm not into online dating very much. Haven't had any luck with it. They either panic when I mention the disability, which is necessary to mention because I would never mislead anyone, and then they run - or I get a lot of guys saying 'You're hot, have sex with me'.
You simply wouldn't believe the number of times I have been asked to participate in cyber sex. I of course refused all requests. I even had 1 guy trying to get me to phone him so I could get him off over the phone.
This was just from normal dating agencies. I reported one person to the moderators of the group. I think a lot of these online places are just used by people to get sex, so I quit trying online dating, months ago.
I think if I am ever lucky enough to have a husband, it will be because he liked me first and we got on well and the sex, when it happened, worked. If we can talk for hours and the sexual connection works, that's when I will know that I can have a R with that person.
I think really the starting point has to be friendship and mutual interest/respect.
A lot of sites they don't want to build a friendship, they just want to get straight to 'let's go out clubbing, kiss in the back of a cab and come round to my place for 'coffee' ' on the first meeting.
That is NOT how I want to meet the love of my life, but maybe I'm old fashioned.
Jay, I'm glad you're chatting with this Russian woman. A bit of friendly chit chat is proof to you that there are other women out there apart from just XW.
As for me, if I meet anyone I would have to be 100% convinced of his attraction and he'd really have to make me go 'wow' before I'd consider anything as it has taken this heart a long time to heal.
