My life is worse than a soap opera. I got a call at midnight - I didn't answer because I was unplugging the iron.
Found message from Andy, asking me to call him. I called him, wondering why on earth he is calling me at midnight. He apologised for getting me up. I said you didn't. What is it?
He said he was in court tomorrow so couldn't bring DD4 back in time for her nursery school and would come back in the afternoon instead. I asked why he was in court, he said it wasn't for him, but a friend and then mentioned 2 friends I know he has whom I shall refer to as V and J.
V is another female friend of his, but not a OW, they are just friends and I have known all along and don't mind this lady. She used to take her kids to the same school my kids went to, one of her son's is autistic and the other is DD1's best friend. J is her husband, who Andy knows vaguely.
Anyway, J and V have been going through a divorce for several months now, instigated by V (the woman) and Andy tried to help them both and then when they put the house on the market, he helped V apply for a new house which she subsequently got in August.
Now suddenly V says that J has sexually abused their 2 sons AND she made an allegation that he molested my DD3 whilst she was visiting the house with Andy. Andy was there at the time and says nothing happened. J was watching TV and DD3 climbed onto his knee, that was all.
I believe Andy on this one. If anything had happened, Andy would have hit J and called the police. I have seen my DD3 quite a few times, regularly lately, and she is always happy and confident, which she wouldn't be if anyone molested her.
As well that this, the eldest son denies that any abuse took place, and V is still living in the marital home with J even though she has had her own house since August. Andy said to me on the phone 'Jo, if that was you and I was abusing the kids, what would you do?' I said 'Easy, I'd take them and run for the hills.' He said 'exactly, that's what anyone would do, but she's still with him, and keeping the boys around him while her house sits empty.'
I asked him if maybe J was terrorizing her. He said no because they go swimming together and shopping and they hang out as if they were still married.
I said Andy, you really don't know what's going on here; you're in over your head. We have enough of our own marital problems, do you really want to get involved with this?'
He said that he liked V, she had been a good friend to him for 2 years, but he also knew that J was innocent so he had been asked by the court to make a character witness statement and also to say what occured on the day when my DD3 sat on J's knee.
I said to him that I would request that our children are kept out of anymore legal battles as they have already been in too many. He said they weren't aware of anything. He said it wasn't a sexual abuse trial, it was a custody and contact trial and as V was mentioning our DD3 in her court statement and insinuating that J had molested her, he had to be there to set the record straight.
He assured me nothing happened to DD3, 'She just climbed onto his knee when he was watching TV, I was in the room chatting to both of them.'
I believe him. He might treat me bad but he does love the kids and if anything had happened, he'd have blacked the other guy's eyes.
I told him I thought maybe it was a revenge thing, as allegations get made when there is a custody battle. He said he knew, and that is why he wanted to stand up for J.
I told him he might lose V's friendship. He said he knew, but the court had requested him to be there so he was caught in the middle.
He talked about how he hated the court and it would be the same court room we were in and he didn't want to go in there again.
I said, 'I'm not going to wish you luck as I'm not sure how wise it is getting up to your neck in this dispute, but I will say I'm thinking of you and you can take your moral support from me as I know being in that building and speaking up when she is your friend, will be hard.'
He said thank you.
Then I said I was tired and was going to bed so we ended the convo.
I really am going to bed now as it's 1.15am! God, another thing to worry about.
