Sounds like your mom didn't believe in empowering you and encourage you to be independent? I know, I know, the world is a different place nowadays. Mr. Wonderful and I do everything we possibly can to encourage D8 to be as independent as possible.
And there are many similar symptoms between your D8 and mine. Though mine is mute. She has Angelman Syndrome.
My hat goes off to you for forging a life of your own. That must have been difficult.
Yes, the murderer is in jail for life. Sadly, he's unrepentant and feels his sentence is unfair. He can't understand why quitting his job might have been a viable option? At any rate, my adopted parents are 2 of the finest role models I know. They know what my life is like, and I've found a safe place to go without worrying if D8 is going to piss them off. It's just not possible.
It was divine intervention that I met them... the day before Mr. Wonderful dropped the bomb on me. I've thanked God for the stroke of genius because it's been a real blessing to have surrogate parents close by (mine live in DC, about 2000 miles away).
If I can do it, so can you. I hope you find some support out there. I know it's possible, but you have to put yourself out there and let others know what you want. I do believe that you're going to get it.
LOL, if D8 tries to peel a potato we're doomed! I think I'll leave it up to you...
Have a great weekend,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 