Sorry about you being ill. Hope you're better soon.
XH was my first love ever (and I was his). I was 16 and he was a taxi driver who got the contract to drive me 2 hours every day, 5 days a week. I did know him prior to that (but hated him, LOL) so essentially I didn't have to 'date' as such. 7 months after we became a couple, we moved in together.
I was so sick (physically) with hyperacusis that I wasn't able to go to bars/clubs, so that wasn't something we ever did. Managed to be well enough to go to a restaurant or cinema once every 2 or 3 months. That was the only social life I got (in the evenings). It just became a habit to NOT go anywhere, and when he left I was so depressed I couldn't for a long time.
Alicia of course was born 3 months after he went and then there's the whole babysitting thing to take into account. What with those scary incidents with men, it shook my already battered confidence.
I know my friend would only look after her maybe once a month. It's not feasible to me as a single mother to expect a 'night life' more than that, unless I took her with me. I sometimes take her to that spiritual group I go to but that's awkward as it doesn't finish till 9pm so she gets very tired/bored.
About 18 months ago I did start attending some of the local activities held in my area (once the depression started lifting), so we go to 3 different things a week now, and I started college part-time, but my babysitter fell through so I've not been for ages. I will have to talk to them about possibly getting funded childcare.
There is a walking club here - apparently they do 'short and gentle' walks, and since me and DD4 walk everywhere I thought I might enquire if we could join; it would be more fun walking with other people than on our own.
I also found the Friends of the Earth group which is in central Nottingham. If I could persuade my friend to babysit, I could go there for the evening, once a month.
Anyway, to my GAL update:
Took DD4 to dance class this morning and we met a little 2 year old lad who has CP (same disability as me), through being premature (same reason as me). I've never met anyone else who had it, even if he is only 2, so I spent the morning playing with him, LOL.
He can't walk yet but he makes up for that by talking, A LOT. I couldn't walk either till I was 5, so I reckon he'll get there. Chatted to his mother for ages.
Went to the grocery store and the cashier in there told me that she'd saved a bag of clothes for DD4 at her house and would bring them in next time, so that was nice. Bought DD4 some gloves as it's FREEZING in this country now!
Noticed a poster for a Christmas Fair on 2nd December. Decided to go to that and see if I meet anymore locals.
Took DD4 to nursery and when I got home, I found a card from CARE fertility (IVF clinic) with a picture of this baby sitting on a lilly pad in the middle of a pond, and a message saying thank you.
They already gave me the flowers and I wasn't expecting anything else. No one evers sends me cards, not even on my birthday, so that had me in tears, LOL
Made some big sales to 2 alternative health clinics, for my books, so I'm pleased with that.
