Soldiering On

[Briget]

Jo I'm gonna step out on a limb here.I hope you dont take offence with me.( I have a fever so bare with me.)

I to was assulted years ago. It was brutal.And I did put myself in the postion that lead to my attack.Now when I go out I do certain things that keep me safe.

For instance I never leave my drink unatteded.If I need to put it down to shoot pool I put in under the pool table where I'm taking my shot.If someone were to put something in it I would know.

When I go to a restarant I greet the waitress by name.That way you make a connection to the waitress and when someone bothers me they notice.

When on the bus or train sit close to the driver if possible.

When walking stay on the crowded side of the street.Safety in numbers.Sounds counterproductive but it isn't.

I go out a couple of times a week.Often by myself.The trick is to look comfortable with it.I think fear has a scent that weirdos can smell.

You can let what happen to you keep you locked in your house.But that gives that person the power.

Having a disability and being afraid is not a reason to let yourself miss out on things.

It will be scary to do it the first couple of times.But with practice you will get more comfortable with it.And after a time you will enjoy it.

I started going out to restarants and pubs by myself when I didn't know anyone.Not one soul here.Now I have a group of people who I can call to go out with.

I know it is scary.So try a baby step.Just one.See how that goes.

I'm off to get some tea.I have a sore throat.

Later friend
Briget