Quote: I can't go to bars/clubs on my own, or the cinema, or a restaurant. These are things you do as a couple, and at any rate, I am scared of being attacked.
I'm going to have to call you on this, Jo. You are an incredibly courageous person when it comes to business and your kids. It will take similar bravery to get your needs met. Let Andy go, drop the rope, and get on with living a FULL life, including the prospect of receiving love that you deserve.
There are many men out there who won't waste an evening with a beautiful woman dressed in red lingerie by smoking dope like a knucklehead. Let the right man find you by getting yourself out there, when you are ready.