Seriously, drugs, OW1, OW2, You cant deal with people like this Jo. When you talk with people that do what Andy does, what is talking back to you looks like Andy but it is not Andy. Its the dope annd someone who always has an escape door if things get rough.
Drugs and OW are not part of a person that wants a commited relationship. Drugs and OW are part of someone's life who wants what they want when they want it. They want things easy and can't or don't want to do the work that it takes to ger through the tough parts of life.
If you want a life with Andy, the drugs have to go. Same with getting drunk if that ever is or was a problem.
Take care of yourself Jo. The dream thing is interesting.
