Hi Jo, I also agree with all that Liv had to say. Of course, you know I'm not a big Andy fan.
Many years ago, before I was married, I dated a guy that made me crazy. Very similar to Andy in that he always kept me off balance as to his feelings, expectations, etc. However, he wasn't cruel like Andy is. After 2 yrs of me being a total nut case, I knew that to save my own sanity I had to get away from him even though I "thought" I loved him desperately.
I did some pretty drastic things. I moved, quit my job and got another one, got a different phone number, etc. He continued to look for me and ask people about me but none of my friends would tell him anything. They knew I was desperate to save myself from his craziness. About 8 months later, we met up and I was completely over him. I looked at him and wondered why I ever fell for him in the first place.
People that hurt you physically or emotionally do not love you. Period. I really do think that Andy is unstable. Maybe he has a drug problem. He definitely doesn't like to be without a woman in his life. Just don't allow you to be that woman any longer.
I've noticed over the last several months that you seem happier when you don't have much contact with him. Stay the course, Jo. You don't need him. If anything, he needs you to control and have power over to feel good about himself.
