Quote: ZenMan, how are you? Yes, thanks for pointing out what may be a positive. He can recommitt but not ready for me too? Are you serious or being hopeful and grasping at straws?
Remember your Love Languages? Some people are into physical affection and some are into acts of service. You've said that he is very much into having things under control and you've also said that he might be having some male confidence/MLC kinds of issues. As a guy, I know that there were tough times with my XW where I took solace, and even enjoyment, out of "getting things under control" as a way of expressing love even though I wasn't ready to *say* anything or give a hug or have sex or etc etc etc.
Might be grabbing at straws...I really don't know. But, from my perspective, you *might* be seeing some "acts of service".
I guess that is something that has been mulling around in my head a bit too...what do you think about the possibility that you guys don't share common love languages? I know you've had a bewildering time trying to bring him back to you emotionally. Maybe you aren't pushing the right buttons?
Just something to think about. Perhaps worth playing around with a bit. Then again, it might just be one of those situations where there's not a lot you can do but wait so don't beat yourself up over all of it.
