Thanks aneysr, for the warning. He might be hurt, he might be thinking, but will he say anything? doubtful. I've not been very good at DB'ing lately, maybe there is something inside of me crying out for resolution and I should listen to it? I feel pretty wishywashy, keep trying? give it up. keep trying? give it up. But I am sure until the day he leaves and beyond I will keep trying. After all, I don't think the first 11 years were all so bad, that's just his perception.
Quiet and distance continues.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.