What a fun night this turned out to be, but sure not like I expected it! First off, as I was leaving work, my old high school friend was lurking so we pulled into a parking lot and yacked a few minutes. He finds me quite often, but I just don't trust the whole deal. He and wife have been divorced a couple years, and we were all good friends way back when. He probably was my best friend for a while, but when I got married he dropped out of sight. I didn't even know he was divorced until last year about this time, I almost ran into him in a parking lot and we caught up on 12 years. Of course I was having a horrible day and when he asked how I was I burst into tears. Man I hate that about me. Now he always wants to hold my hand or give me a hug, I feel like he wants more than I can offer, just a friend. But I sure could use a good friend.
So I get home later than normal, and the lady coming to ride just about beats me in the driveway, but we ride and are just finishing when H pops into the barn. We all chat a few minutes, she leaves, H said we have an invitation from some friends to meet them in town for dinner, I have to hurry and do chores. Wahooo! a night on the town! plus we have to stop at the local farm store to get another tank heater (electrical problems, still blowing breakers, my H the electrical consultant to OW but can't/won't fix our own stuff).
So off to town, in my truck because H's is so full that only the driver will fit, and we pick up our stuff (I grabbed a few other things we needed, H was buying!) and check out. This tank heater is for farm use so they don't charge sales tax, but the clerk always asks. "Is this for farm use?" yes, it is. Then I looked at her and said 'no, we're going to use it in our bath tub'. She said 'really?' I busted out laughing. Sorry if you don't see the humor, but it is funny for us farmy folks.
Off to meet our friends for dinner. We get to talking about horses and people, and sure enough - OW's name pops into the conversation - NOT by me but by the other couple. Oh wow, my H starts getting red faced, and I play along so good with the conversation. The other guy starts talking about the price she paid for her place, her XH and the business they run, the new run in shed she's putting up.... I looked at H and asked, "Is that the shed you're consulting with the electrical work?" H said yeah, and stuffed his mouth full. The other guy says, "your doing her electric work?" with an amazed tone to his voice. (H is NOT an electrical guy) So H has to fill him in on stuff, about how he's helping her figure out where to put outlets and plugs. (I am thinking -RUN A DAMM EXTENSION CORD!) And the conversation dwells a little longer on OW and then moves on to a new topic. Oh so fun! After all, H said OW doesn't have to be a wedge between us, so there should be no harm in talking about her during dinner with friends, right?
We drive home, I make light talk about anything. The neighbors lights are on and H wants to stop but doesn't say why. He gets out and asks if I'm coming, so I do. Are we still putting up the good appearance front? We have a nice visit with the neighbors, H talks hunting with the lady's son while I talk to the lady, and we're having a good laughing time and pretty soon we notice quiet around us, and the guys are listening to our talk, guess they got bored. Ah well, time to go home.
And here I am, giving a little better update than the last few. Maybe someone will pop in and say hi again? It feels good just to let it go and laugh, and I did that tonight. I need mega doses of that.
H says he's going hunting in the morning, be out before day light, it will be cold and windy. I'll be snuggled in my warm bed. Hope he plans on doing the morning chores like he is supposed too! And if it's plenty cold maybe he'll be back home in time to go with me to my folks for Thanksgiving Dinner. If not, his loss.
Hope everyone reading has a wonderful Thanksgiving! Don't forget what it's all about, giving thanks for the good things.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.