Quote: Can he be too vain and tired of excess baggage physically and emotionally?
Of course, it's possible. No one here knows your H like you do though, so no one's going to be able to say if that's what he's thinking. I hope it's not, because that makes him disappointingly shallow.
But I have to repeat what bigAl said. Don't go down that road! Don't start those kinds of doubts rolling.
It sounds like I'm in your same camp. I was really overweight around the time of the bomb. I lost a big chunk due to the post-bomb stress. And I kept the ball rolling. I've stalled, but would really like to lose another 15 to 20 lbs. That makes me just about normal I'd say.
Funny, though. I lost all that weight and I wasn't doing it for my H. At that point I figured he was already gone. But, since D has fallen silently off the table, and my life isn't in quite so much upheavel I started trying to lose using the date I'd see H again as a goal date. Guess how much weight I lost "for my H." None.
