I got a call from the ex today to tell me she is so confused. She just can't figure out if she is missing me or if her thoughts are generated from missing our son.
She did not specifically say the words but it was apparent that she loves the OM and letting that go is not something she is sure about. I think she may be confused about her feelings for him too. Probably because of missing the family but I'm certain she can't see me as an obvious option because of him.
The bottom line for me during this conversation is there isn't an attraction towards me that she can clearly point to other than the thought of another woman benefitting from my changes. She indicated she has advised the OM she needs space to sort things out but has not broken off relations or contact.
Now I'm unsure how to proceed. A completely hands off approach with life proceeding as normal got me this far but will the situation remain static if no other action is taken? With the distance between us, there isn't much opportunity for a connection to occur.
I can't figure out why this proclamation from her affected me. The first one via the phone call did not even phase me. Perhaps it was spending time with her during her visit that made some of the hurt resurface and the longing for reconcilliation to gain momentum. In many ways, I feel as though I have gone back approximately 6 months in my healing process.
