Quote: But it would be nice if he'd learn what I truly do like when it comes to picking out gifts. I often show him things that I like, that are something I would choose for myself (jewelry/clothing/home decor items) but he always waits and buys me things when I'm present.
I’ll admit to doing a bit of this myself, so let me explain. After thirty years of marriage, I still haven’t been able to figure out what W likes. Heaven knows I try, but I just can’t seem to get it. When we go shopping together, I’ll see something I’m just positive she’ll like and point it out to her. Nine times out of ten, she either dismisses it with no reaction at all, or she makes a face or comment making it abundantly clear that the doesn’t like it. So the only way I can be safe is to buy the exact item that she has made a positive comment about. And the best way to do that is to buy it right then when there’s no chance of making a mistake, the particular item being sold, or whatever. Admittedly, it’s gotten a little better since the kids have gotten older; I can distract W and dispatch one of them to procure the item. But it’s still tempting to just buy it on the spot.
