Yes, that's exactly it. There are gifts that he could give me that would truly touch me, and I have even dropped those hints to him...one such gift would be something with a ruby in it (doesn't have to be expensive) that would represent our S.
When he took me shopping I know he was hoping I'd find something I wanted...but that's not the same as him taking the time to listen to me and finding something I would like. Or even (as I've told him several times) buying me something that he sees that makes him think of me. Instead he asks me to circle things in catalogs (which I don't mind) or waits til the last minute before a GG occasion and asks me what I want. Now I know he does these things because he wants to ensure he gets something I'd like, I understand that and don't really have a problem with it....but it sure would be nice if he'd learn what "I" like, and to do that he would have to really make an effort to get to know GEL.
See I'm the same as you when it comes to GG, I do exactly what you do as well. I love to give gifts!!! And I do it simply because I want to do it, not because I have to do it. I pretty much love to give and do for other people in general.
As for the party...I think he actually thinks he's doing me a favor "letting me go on my own". Even though I've told him I'd like him to go, he seems to think he's giving me a freedom.
