Quote: Negotiate what? How do you negotiate desire? This is not about having sex, this is all about WHY you have sex. This is all about INTIMACY. So how do you negotiate intimacy?
Can you 'quote' my post so I know what you are referring to? Because I think I said that it wasn't about negotiating. I understand that it isn't just about sex, it's about intimacy. And several people here have told you, time and again, that if you are lacking intimacy in your life, it more than likely is not about 'lack of sex' as it is about lack of communication and trust between you.
Is your wife as devout as you are? Have you ever considered going to one of those weekends some of the people here on the board have tried?
