Ok I understand what you are asking now...yes, he does get social cues. He doesn't get me. He says he does, and when I ask him to tell me what he thinks I need/want....he will tell me what I've told him. But he doesn't do those things.....or at least very, very rarely does them.
I truly do believe that what I/We are dealing with is truly a matter of my H not wanting to step out of his comfort zone. He's had some success with what he's doing with other W in the past, so I suspect he still thinks this approach will at some point work with me if he keeps at it....NOT!
Right now I'm toying with the idea of a Christmas gift for him. A handmade book called "The Key". Each page will have something meaningful to me on it, things that are important to me (that he can do), romantic situations/ideas...something we did in the past that would fit in that situation, fun situations/ideas, ideas for spending time together (that don't cost a dime), things we can do as a family etc, but all things that would help foster that EC....all hand written in calligraphy, nicely bound with photographs and an old-fashioned key tied to it with a ribbon.
The idea behind it is to hopefully tie together things he's done in the past, perhaps when we were dating that did foster that EC along with photographic reminders.
I don't know if he'd like it or not for sure, but it's something I'm toying with right now. At this point it's a work-in-progress that won't cost much to do...but who knows, it might make an impact. I doubt it, but it certainly won't hurt. If nothing else, my H will like it for the sentimental value.
