Yes, I understand what you say...my real question however is...why does he persist in doing this, when I've told him repeatedly that it doesn't work? I've told him face-to-face, I've told him in our therapists office....AND I've given him sugestions for things that would work. Why not simply take one of my ideas and do it? I've explained how much it would mean and that if he would make THAT effort it would make a big impact...yet he still doesn't do anything different.
I honestly know the answers to many of the things I've asked here I believe....I'm just hoping someone can give a new perspective that I haven't thought of. He is continuing to do the same things he's always done, that's comfortable to him even though they don't work. Doing what I've asked of him takes him way outside his comfort level...and that seems to be the one thing he simply will not budge from.
