Actually I think of the shiney silver Chrome.....like in Trace Adkins song "Chrome" (sorry for those out there who don't like country music LOL)
I don't necessarily feel I have a problem separating my H from our R ... but in our R because his behavior has changed, specifically since we married it is in many ways up to him now to bring back what he used to provide. I can't make him do this, don't want to make him do this. All I can do is tell him what I need out of our R.
I think for the most part I work very hard at not so much focusing on HIM per-say, but trying to communicate to him what I need in our R to feel fulfilled. Hey I'm not perfect though...there are times I just want to bash him upside the head and go "Ya big dummy don't you get it yet!!!" Naturally I don't say this LOL
