Yeah, that whole "til death do us part" thing can be a real security blanket for some folks. I think your answer to your H was awesome, and quite honestly, I suggest you stay in that 'emotional buffer' zone you've got for a little while longer. Not to torture him, but to give yourself a much needed break.
That doesn't mean you don't respond to his genuine overtures, if you WANT to... but first and foremost, take care of you. Let him take care of him.
