Funny you did that, I did just the same thing after posting and came to the same conclusion. It is not surprising that the W might read that and come to the (I think false) conclusion that the book is anti-LD. We all tend to read into things what we want to hear.
Back when the EA was in full swing and I was trying to deal with all of my conflicting feelings, I did have a lot of convos with my wife about SSM-type issues. Unfortunately, I'm sure I came off very scatterbrained and confused (all of you have seen me that way here so you know what I am talking about), so I may have scared her off a bit on R convos. I have stopped doing that (on the advice of people here on the board) for awhile now, but I think once we get started with MC (about a week from now) I think it would be good for the W and I to agree on some mutual reading. I am considering 5LL, SSM, Relationship Rescue (which we started a bit earlier), and others. I also have been collecting thoughts from posts on this board that I want to give to her when the time is right. Someone made a suggestion (to someone else) to have the W read some of the posts on this board. I am a bit afraid of letting the W read some of my posts on this board, as I did vent a bit more than I should have at times. When we do talk about R issues, she tends to really focus on statements I make that bug her to the exclusion of things she agrees with, so I'm sure she would pick certain things I have said here and ignore the rest. Maybe I am wrong though. Its pretty clear that I have a very incomplete understanding of my W's motives (that I think is becoming more complete but I have a long way to go).
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
