Quote: If sex drives are close, I believe the differences can be worked on and could result in a happy and fullfilling reltionship.
I agree with you that similar drives can make things easier. But even that isn't enough some times.
I read on another marriage-related board a few months ago, a post by a HD wife married to a HD man. She was ready to bail out of the marriage because *both* wanted the other to initiate. So, the drives were compatible, but the expression of those drives was not. Another couple had equivalent drives, but one spouse wanted to pursue swinging while the other did not.
Also, a couple of years ago NOP was watching a tv program about married people on the verge of divorce. One couple was both high drive sexually, with no disagreement on frequency or intensity, but their relationship was falling apart in other areas and they did end up getting a divorce.
To me, it is our inability to work out our differences in a way that is supportive of both spouses. The sexual drive discrepancy is paramount here because that's the topic of this forum. But the inability to negotiate work commitments, community involvement, child rearing, housework, finances, family time, religious involvement, etc. including sexual drives - there are people who find themselves in the same hamster-wheel on issues that their partner will not work with them to resolve.
