Lostgal, to quote AFF I find it pretty much a turn off though for wanting to be envolved with someone when she smashes your your self worth and ego by turning you down time after time. I find extremely difficult to be civil let along show a sincer interest in a woman who has sent me to very dark and desprate places
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my H for example, never thought of the gal, or how to find the ways to please them.


Sorry to hear that has happened LG.
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He just thought that you "hammer long enough" and that will work.


At one time I thought it took thrusting long enough to reach the goal. At that time I was inexperienced. I never knew what it took then LG. Your H failed to learn over time, is this what you are saying?

How do couples get so screwed up?

Lou