Quote: I'm sure you've written about it before, but could you remind me what triggered that awareness for you? Did it come over time, or was there a single "oh my God!" moment?
I keep thinking I can do something to provoke that realization in my wife, but it just ain't happening....
Hmmm... if I remember correctly... it was March or April of 2003, which would have put me at about the slightly over 10 years of on and off marriage counseling... I had reached the very friggin' end of my rope... I happened to be in a book store and I swear I saw the title of Michele's book from darn near across the room.
The title so amused me (because that described my M to a T) that I went over and picked it up. I sat down and really started reading it almost immediately.
Those conversations that Michele wrote about could have been mine that I'd been having with my H VER BATIM over the years. And when I heard those men saying the same things my H had been telling me, but with way more detail about the grief, anguish and pain they'd been experiencing... I don't know... call it divine intervention... I don't know... I just 'got it.'
And then when I got to the part where she was describing that some women experience arousal before desire... and that I fit into a 'mold' of normalcy, too... well.
Combine this with all the work I had done on my own and in counseling... let's just say the bricks came tumbling down onto my head, and none too gently.
In having told you all this, however, I think now is the time to also tell you all that I am in the middle of a divorce. Just so I don't misrepresent myself as a marital guru. That, I am not.
