I suppose I would be interested in a spouse that showed as much desire in all other aspects of of my life as he did in having sex with me. I find that type of genuine interest in me and that level of participation in non-sexual activities to be a great turn on.
When the only passion and desire I ever see out of him is when he wants to have sex, I naturally draw the conclusion that all he is desirous and passionate about is sex, and no, that doesn't make me feel special, nor is it a turn on (actually it is rather a great turn off).
Corri
I can understand what your saying Corri, I find it pretty much a turn off though for wanting to be envolved with someone when she smashes your your self worth and ego by turning you down time after time. I find extremely difficult to be civil let along show a sincer interest in a woman who has sent me to very dark and desprate places. I thank God that I was able to climb out of that dark hole. For me it's important that we "play of each others desire and passion". I can no longer carry the load with my desire.
