I suppose I would be interested in a spouse that showed as much desire in all other aspects of of my life as he did in having sex with me. I find that type of genuine interest in me and that level of participation in non-sexual activities to be a great turn on.
When the only passion and desire I ever see out of him is when he wants to have sex, I naturally draw the conclusion that all he is desirous and passionate about is sex, and no, that doesn't make me feel special, nor is it a turn on (actually it is rather a great turn off).
