Dave I think you have an EXCELLENT handle on the most important aspects of being an attractive male. strong, confidant, initiator, outcome independant, look for the good, humorous.

But this IMO is wrong

You associate his desire for you with your attractiveness. This might be something so deeply entrenched in the female psyche that it can never be fixed...but it's wrong.

Umm if its entrenched female psyche, then its not wrong, its the nature of the animal. Its not something that needs to be fixed, its something that needs to be handled accordingly. You dont ride a cow, and you dont milk a horse. Both are possible, but the results are less then spectacular.

HD, (kemosabe? Who you calling a horses rear end? them there is fightin words HD. ) can you see me cruising the plains bareback, bowhunting bison on the back of a cow? LOL.

I will say many, many women have zippo self esteem and look to men entirely TOO much to have it filled, but its normal for a man to desire a woman, and for her to feel validated by it. ( I mentioned such a thing to a new poster, and HP handed me a beating for suggesting such a thing. LOL.) The reverse is nice, and likely when all the attributes I described above are demonstrated by the man plus a couple more, but it is not a necessary function of biology.