Quote: Secondly, the pursuit thing. As you may remember this is a biggie for me. I want my H to pursue me because, as a woman, this feels right and natural. It feels bizarre to intentionally set it up your way--where I'm 100% responsible for the sex "I get".
I agree with this-- the shoe does not fit quite so comfortably on the other foot. For a guy to figure out that he's going to need to be responsible virtually all the time for initiating sex seems more in the "natural order of things" (for want of a better expression) than if the W figures out that SHE is going to have to initiate all the time. And when I say that she is going to initiate, I mean that she is going to have to do something a lot more aggressive than hint that she's interested or available or behave seductively. In my case (back when I still did this sort of thing) I sometimes had to physically drag him to the bedroom. I don't do that anymore and as a result have not had sex in almost a year.
