KDK, Kismet, Blueman... Thanks for dropping by to give me your thoughts..Appreciate it.
contacting OW KDK - Reasons for contacting ow is now not so much of CONFRONTING her, but more of passing on the responsibility of taking care of H's welfare to her. If that's what he wants, the last thing that I could do to help him is to let her know that her lavish spending is putting him in financial strain. And since she LOVES him soooo much, then she should HELP him to straighten up. I know it sounds like I am giving up my H to the ow...but I can't think of any other way out.
I guess it's the "attention" they give/gave our H that made them alluring...lol. To be fair to the ow (urrghh..can't believe I actually said this..) she is NOT bad looking. Just that I expected someone who is va-va-vooom. She looks quite attractive with her make-up. But without it, really really common and indistinctive. I can't even remember how she looks like now ..without her makeup. WIth makeup , yes, I can recall her features...Have to say very very different..with and without makeup. Did wonder how much of makeup she put on her.. The eyes especially... fake eyelashes? Drawn double eyelids? Eye-shadow ??? I think my H's drawn to her because she was seen as a "catch"??? And it boosted his ego. And I think she fulfills his need for ADMIRATION. You know how we take our spouse for granted? On a normal day, we just aren't the cheerleaders that we could be...
Same pattern Kismet - Yes. Yes.. He'll be off with ow, and then when I go dark or wanting to throw in the towel, he comes and feeds me with stories, and then disappoints me. And I give up, and he comes and feeds me with roughly the same stories, and then disappoints me again. (The cycle starts again... H just told me that the house that he had seen - the one from my last post- has been taken, and he's very disappointed. MY FOOT!!!)
have told her that things might be over between us if she doesn't go with me Blueman - Hate to say this...but it DOES sound like a threat....
Whats ur case Yoyo? looks like he cares... but...? Have NOOOOO Idea...
Journalling... Wednesday... Am out-of-town for work. H texted me and informed that he's transferred the $$ to my account for this month's expenses. I replied "Ok. Thanks. Appreciate it. Raining cats and dogs and flooding in few areas. Afraid might be stranded here" H: Better not. Otherwise no Phuket. I didn't reply. But later, I did text him about our phone bills. SOme text exchanges with regards to the phone. Later, after work, returned back to the hotel. Signal reception was really bad. Couldn't receive anything. So, I've gone DARK unintentionally since I was non-contactable.
This Morning, THursday. Got into the out-of-town office. Logged onto MSN. H texted. H: What happened to your phone? Me: Bad reception. Couldn't get a signal. Then I proceeded to tell him about a dodgy visit by the hotel maintenance which of course I didn't open the door. H: Please be careful. And I went on to give more details..and H Imed H: The house has been taken. I am so disappointed Me: Why did you go and see it then? (I was actually rolling my eyes and shaking my head at this point already. All the talk ...talk ...talk... and then all for what???) H: They told me yesterday. Me: Maybe it was not meant to be (still shaking my head and roling my eyes...) H: We'll see. Got to go. BYe. Me: BYe.
SO, you see..the pattern cycle has completed a cycle already. Me giving up, H sweet-talk and H disappoints again. I really am gonna just F**k it for the time-being. Afterall, am taking my two boys to Phuket tmrw. Will be back on Monday. H would be London for a week then... so, long distance..we won't really be in-touch.
Sometimes, giving up and going on our separate ways would be so much easier...don't you think? Like I said in my previous posts...it will be status quo unless I do something drastic...and that would be to CALL ow. But since my imposed deadline was end January...I will keep to it. It's only 2 months... I can wait 2 months...afterall, I've been patient for 8 months..what's another 2? Then, I will call ow. Besides, H GAVE me permission to call her up then ...if things have not been sorted out by then..
