Still Yoyo-ing About #4...

[kaydeekay]

Yoyo: I don't really see the pattern (maybe I'm missing it..LOL). However, it does look like once you've stood your ground and actually told H that you've had ENOUGH of this drama bullsh!t he came reeling back in. H started seeing the strong independent Yoyo and began to realize that he could lose you now for good. I noticed there was no talk about sex, but there was serious talks about R.

I would continue doing what you are doing right now. Let H get the ball rolling on the housing and schooling situation (which appears he has); I think this shows a positive turn in your sitch.

As far as contacting OW, I don't know if I would do that right now. I did that once and all I heard were the lies he was telling her about me and she heard the lies he was telling me about her. So nothing really came out of this confrontation other than misery on my part.

And I know what you mean when you saw the pics of OW. What is it that they see attractive in the OP? The OW in my sitch is very plain, kinda masuline, no curves, no hair style, totally opposite of me. I guess it's the "attention" they give/gave our H that made them alluring...lol.

Stay strong, positive, and patient.