Hey Yoyo...I am seeing a pattern here in your H's behavior. He promises you time and time again that he is going to work it out - he stops you from contacting the OW by saying "I was JUST about to chose you, but if you do that, I won't chose you". Then once he has you convinced, he starts to waffle again about making the choice.
Now just because I see the pattern doesn't mean I'm sure of the best thing to do about it! Maybe just you recognizing it, and seeing how you tend to fall into the same cycle by saying and doing the things you do - you react the same way almost every time he does this. It's like the two of you are caught in this dance and just can't stop the habits that keep you here. Maybe just you decide that you won't comment either way on what he says until you see some proof, not just words. I don't know, I'll think on this and see if I come up with anything, or maybe someone else has some wisdom!
But hang in there, it had to be a tough weekend, and you got through it. I would have destroyed all her stuff, though!
