Kim, Blueman, Kismet, KDK - Thanks gals/guy for dropping by to check on me.
he starts with the X-Rated texts and then wants you to go to his Country.Next he says he can't see a solution b/c you wont budge and neither will he. This tells me he will not give up OW but if this is the case why does he constantly have phone sex with you and want you to go over there for sex. Kim - Can't call him Mr.Yoyo if he doesn't have all these yoyo-ing about..
Is it no good with OW or does she go away alot and he can't get it so gets it from you. Kim - I don't know for sure..so am just guessing here.. 1) Many times, H said that I'm better than OW (?? Could be a lie??) 2) H said "You are the f**k of my life" 3) My sisters told me OW has no boobs and no butt (could be a biased remark!! So don't know how true...) 4) OW holds quite a good job...busy maybe? Can't make the trip? 5) I'm eager and h**ny as hell (??? Really don't know what's with my raging hormones!!! D@mn those hormones!!)
Hope you and H enjoy your 9th wedding anniversary this weekend with no major crisis or tsunamis KDU - Yes,...will take the opportunity to 1)satisfy my notti needs 2)knowing H would have lied through his teeth to OW about us being in Country X 3) not having to wonder "how could he be spending time with OW on our anniversary. 4) subtly instill some sweet old memories.... I am determined to keep this weekend Tsunami-Free. I know it takes REAL CONTROL on my part to not churn up anything.... Have to bring that faithful rubber-band with me...TWANG!!!!
did u ever give ur H a sense of loss... scare him that he might lose you? I know it sounds weird and very risky... but may be put some faith in it and try it if u never tried it... Blueman - I have tried it OUTRIGHT. But I did sort of go kinda GREYISH and went to Mauritius with my girlfriends. I didn't call him and he was like calling me everyday, telling me all sorts of notti things over the phone, and telling me that he has been sending me texts and texts..and how come I didn't receive them. Blah blah blah. I think he isn't really READY to let me go, nor OW BLeah. What do you suggest? Tell him I'm seeing someone??
Journalling... Nothing much happened... Wednesday, sent H an email to inform him that the money is the foreign account and also next month's obligations (he asked me about it late on Tuesday night..called me about 11.30 pm). Some exchanges on emails about this issue. In one of my emails, I wrote "we can discuss our joint financial obligations this weekend too. Will have a time-limit, and solution focused". H wrote: Time-limit? You want to get into my pants. Say so! I have to say that getting into his pants was not in my mind when I wrote that email!!! Well, he also wrote that he'll call me...well, he didn't. Wasn't gonna fret. Was feeling kinda tired and dizzy. So, just sent him a short text to wish him goodnight as I had the dizzy spells.. He texted back...and asked "how come?". I didn't reply...just didn't felt like it...
Anyway, from what I see it...three things can happen this weekend.. 1) H WANTS the family to move to Country X, and will break it off with OW (fat chance!!!) 2) H says he wants a divorce, and me stating that he will have to do all the work..(Knowing H...the sitch will be such that we end up like NOW.... yoyo-ing...)
I really don't see my sitch going anywhere, BAD or GOOD...unless.. 1) I confront OW and her family, all hell breaks lose. 2) I KICK H out of our M 3) OW gets fed-up and decides to opt out. 4) H becomes REALLY heartless and cut all ties with us.
Basically, as I look at it... up, right, centre, left, right... my sitch will not change...because the ball is in H's court. And knowing him and his yoyo-ing, he won't really do anything. And if it's up to me? I don't want to do anything that I will regret down the road...so KICKING him out is out of the question. As for CONFRONTING OW?? I don't know...got to give that a thought....
But frankly, think I am quite detached now...I think the thing that would tick me is if H has also been sending money to OW... but what can I do?? Not in my control... Breathe! Breathe! Breathe! ... No point fretting.. Just concentrate to GAL, be HAPPY, be CALM, be POSITIVE, and to PISS OW off...(oh... I've collated stuff to leave in H's house in Country X. Things that I could "sacrifice" - some old but nice lingerie, clothes, facial masks etc etc. She'll ask "how come your wife is here? I thought you are separated? Did you have s@x with her?" ha ha ha... Oh..I'm gonna take her expensive toiletries back with me...give it away as gifts... Well, that's the plan anyway). I'm sure she'll be pissed... Word in her office is that "H and I are ALREADY separated"... yeah, RIGHT! If you call conjugal visits and phone s@x separated... And knowing H, he would have fed her soooo much lies. It would be soooo good when she finds out that he has been lying!!! Ha ha ha. By the way, I don't live my days fantasizing about H and OW arguing...just came to my mind...and thought it would be fun ....
2)knowing H would have lied through his teeth to OW about us being in Country X 3) not having to wonder "how could he be spending time with OW on our anniversary. 4) subtly instill some sweet old memories.... I am determined to keep this weekend Tsunami-Free. I know it takes REAL CONTROL on my part to not churn up anything.... Have to bring that faithful rubber-band with me...TWANG!!!!
