Flaneur - Thanks for dropping by and the reminder to DB, DB, DB...
Think that I am posting again because I am trying to convince myself that the stance that I am taking is the correct one, i.e. of nudging H towards getting the family together. I am trying to do this very subtly and in a DB kind of way (validate his feelings and no anger from me).. I just looked at my horoscope. Guess what..this is what it says.. People want things their own way and if you don't stand up and defend yourself, your way may get lost in the shuffle. If you become passive, say you don't care, and leave all the planning and leadership up to your partner, you may find that gradually your relationship heads toward a place you don't want it to go.
So...this has given me the boost to continue to steer my R with my H to where I want it to be. From what I see, he cannot really make a decision for himself...plus I am not going to give up on this M nor this family. Have been docile for 7 months already and it's not getting anybody anywhere. As H says..he is still as confused as ever. I certainly will not KICK him out of the M. So, I guessed I will have to HELP to KICK OW out of the M. I think many times, H was hoping that I would KICK him out, so that he can be free of guilt. But as I said, that is not something I would do. Neither would he really come right out and say he wants OUT of the M. I know this because whenever the word D came up, I asked "Is that what you want? A D now?" and he would answer "I don't know" or "I didn't say that"... Think that has gone on long enough. H kept on thinking that I am sooooo sophisticated and high and mighty that I will NEVER confront OW. So, I guess I am going to subtly suggest that I want to see OW or talk to her..that will frighten him I guessed... Let's just see...
I am on the roll...just have to remember to KEEP CALM, BE HAPPY, BE PATIENT (not rush to talk when H wants to talk), NO ANGER, VALIDATE .....
