VJ/Flaneur/BLueman/KDU - Thanks for dropping by, guys!
keep acting like you and he are working toward rebuilding your R. VJ - Okay. I will ACT AS-IF this is the case. But I need it to do it in a subtle way as not to PUSH him.
But no more negative comments...like the "i know you hate me" thing VJ - Point taken. No more of this. Will not mention it. My lips are zipped. ...Or rather, my fingers are tied??
I have to let him have pride too. Flaneur - This is very very important to the male ego. I've heard this from sooo many guys. F, for one. My mentor, who is a 54 year old wise engineer. Another wise old guy of 60. Also, I sent a venting email to my mentor (he is currently out of the country) to complain about my H, and guess what?? My mentor said that "rather than complain, why don't you see that he is trying to do the right thing, and rejoice instead? Don't win the battle and lose the war". Basically, don't let our PRIDE stop us from achieving our ultimate GOAL...
Tentalize WAS with whatever your best features are - talent.. money...looks..anything.. /color] Money...don't think so. Will go with the talent and looks bit. Will be going to a function at H's best friend's. Hopefully, friends will let H know that his wife LOOKS DAMN GOOD.... He he he...
the OW looked up to him like he was some kind of god, as I looked at him as my ordinary, every day husband. KDU - Case of NEW R vs one that has been going on for EONs??
Journalling... Thursday: H called me about 6.30 pm. When I picked up, I think I answered in quite an unfriendly voice...(SHUCKS! Bad YOYO)...All H wanted to know was if I've come home safely from my work trip...(had to drive 4 hours home). I felt kinda bad after that, and sent him a text "I am okay. Arrived home at 4 pm. Drove like a mad woman though...think I got caught by the speed cameras. Am out now..Call the boys later, okay?". H replied and told me to let S8 read his email and to set up the MSN Messenger for S8 later. That night, did just that. But S8's typing skill is absolutely non-existent, and H ended up calling the boys. Also, he wrote to S8 that "everything will be ok". Before I went to bed, I sent H a text "Just got home. BOys are over at my mom's since it's already so late. Boys said that you will see them next week. You gonna be back? Btw, you probably don't know this, but next Sun is our actual 9 year anniversary. Anyway, how r you? Really busy at work? As for me, tired...long day. Nite nite...Love, Wifey". Didn't get any reply from H.
Friday: I did send H a text this morning. Me: Am planning to talk to my boss about job prospects in Country X...unless you want me to wait. H: Just talk to him. No harm anyway. Make sure he pays you lots!!! Me: Wow...am only wanting to work part-time, and yet asking for lots of money?? H: Send me a text to let me know after you speak to him. do it in the morning. H: FYI...I'll be in COuntry Y from Sun to Wed.
Boss didn't come in...So I sent H a text. Me: Boss gone golf. Not coming in. Anyway, you will be in Country Y. But Are you coming home? Otherwise, do you want me to bring boys to Country X from 18 to 20 Nov? H: Planning to come home next weekend. If not, you can bring the boys. Let you know by Monday.
So...that's it.....POSITIVES.. * Contact still pleasant * Didn't say NO to the job prospect talk * Didn't say NO on the possible visit to Country X * Did sort out the $$ that I asked-for. * Didn't bring up his "uncertainties" or "choices" or OW
