NYS, Kismet, Horselover... Thanks for dropping by.

And just to help out that intent, "assuming" comes via:
Trying to predict the future
Believing that others should think or act as you do
Trying to read minds
Projecting onto another person
Jumping to conclusions
Permitting negative emotions to color reality
Personalizing others' actions/words

NYS - Thanks for reminding me that. I know that...I find the above easier to adhere to when I am not face-to-face with H. I have learned to put negative things aside and not let it bother me significantly. I am much clearer in my mind as to the BIG picture, and not let little minor hiccups mar my main goal.

As for the "entrapment via pregnancy"...I have told myself that it is really beyond my control. So, I am not going to think about it. The reason why this particular friend brought it up was because she DID have a friend that did absolutely that. She was in a R with a separated man, and he did specifically told her that he didn't want any more children. She got pregnant thinking that it would push him to marry her...but he didn't. He got back with his W. Anyway, can't control that...so, getting that thought out of the door...

you are better than that and her
I know that I am BETTER than her!!! For one, I am from a better upbringing..with VALUES!!! I don't know if my H was trying to make me feel better or what...but many times, he did say that I am better than her in many ways...but he just couldn't understand why he is drawn to her. There was once I was dejected and commented "she is more attractive than I am?" and H was quick to say "I said she is slimmer than you, NOT more attractive. Besides..you've had two kids". So? Go figure...

Journalling...
Nothing much happening...did send H a text last night. Only got a reply early this morning. I texted him again and told him that the next time he talks to the boys, to just tell them that he loves them, and that he had to work, and will see them soon... (reason was that S5 is starting to say things like daddy doesn't love his sons and his wife anymore...No..didn't tell H that as he would think that it's my ploy..) H did text and told me to tell the boys that he loves them. I sent him a short text which said "Nothing...Just want to tell you that I love and missed you." Later, he did call to talk to the boys and we did have a short chat. I know saying ILY is not to LRT, but I think it is a 180s. Anyway, so far, H hasn't told me outright to STOP saying that...so, I will continue to do so... I think he needed to know that inspite of all he's done, I still love him....He did ask me that question about a month back. So, as long as I keep things pleasant between us, I think it's okay....

One Day at a TIME!!!
It's a bright sunny future!!!