Quote: I do think it's better to put your house on the market sooner rather than later. Then again, I have a skewed vision of selling a place right now.
I agree. I work in at a real estate company and the market is slowing down. The closer it gets to the holidays things get real slow. It might be better to go on and put it on the market now. If not then it won't be any point in it until after the first of the year. Good luck with it.
Quote: I do think it's better to put your house on the market sooner rather than later. Then again, I have a skewed vision of selling a place right now.
I agree. I work in at a real estate company and the market is slowing down. The closer it gets to the holidays things get real slow. It might be better to go on and put it on the market now. If not then it won't be any point in it until after the first of the year. Good luck with it.
My Goals as of right now: 1. Get house ready to sell 2. Put house on the market 3. Start packing 4. Sit down with Josh and create a plan of action 5. Sit down with the girls and break their hearts again 6. Prepare paperwork for move (loan, school, doctors) 7. Do at least one extra fun thing with the kids each week 8. Do at least one extra fun thing for myself each week
That's it for right now. I have more for after the move though.
Things at home are, I have no idea what to word to use here. For the past two days almost as soon as I get home he goes and takes a nap. Doesn't get up until I go to bed. I really don't care. I can get more done without him underfoot all the time.
I woke up at one point last night to get some water. He was up and wanted to talk to me. It's like 1am and I'm half asleep. So I said okay anyway. I was too tired to argue much. Well now it seems the answer to all his problems is that he's not living in California. If he moves there, life will be perfect. It was all I could do not to laugh.
Really. I told him to do what he needed to do. I'm torn. I don't want him to move 3000 miles away, mostly for D11s sake. This will be father number 2 that has run out on her. But for my sake and sanity, I hope he does. It's going to hurt, really badly. Even more than him just moving out. But I know and I keep telling myself that in the long run it will be for the better.
So I pray and I go on. Things will be okay one day.
It's not really strength, it's doing what has to be done. If it were up to me, this would not be how my life would be going. But it's not. I can only do what I feel is best now for me and D11, and mourn the lose of what once was.
Hope, I thought of a goal for your future new house.
You could decorate it all over - this would take you weeks, would be something you can get your DD's involved with, is a distraction and at the end of it, your new house will look great, be all 'yours' and things you wanted and it'll feel like a home then.
That's what I did when I moved out of the marital home. My place was so run down it wasn't fit to live in and it took over a year just to fix all the problems (which I was glad about as it was something to do) and another 2 months to decorate.
I had a new kitchen put in, new carpets, curtains etc, and bought quite a bit of new furniture (I had to because he took half of it). Now when I walk into my house, it's this burst of colour and everyone loves it - I have numerous comments from people.
It would be something D11 would probably enjoy helping with and you would feel so proud afterwards, it might ease the pain a bit.
Quote: So now I ask you all this, what type of goals should I set for myself now, since my main goal is no longer saving my R with XH but surviving the past and moving on? Any ideas
Make a list of 100 things you want to do before you die and start doing them!
Hope I know how you feel I'm gonna get the D papers this wee. I think he did this on purpose b/c it's my birthday Fri. the 11, I didn't want it to come to this but here Iam and I still don't want it but I can't stop him and thats the bottom line I wish he would wake you but thats asking to much. I wonder if there is any chance of us getting back together again I think the pain from the D will probably throw any hoe of that out the window. I still love him and want to be with him we have 22yrs. in this. along with our 2 kids who will be devistated in the end. I can't imagine being strong but knowing that I have to I don't even want to get out of bed today.H will be bringing S home a little later today and don't know what to do when he comes I know I will cry I'm crying just typing this.and feel really down but do I let him see me cry?.i know he will at some point and time.thanks Joa.
Hopeful I just got back from Disney and was catching up on your thread. I was so pulling for you wishes. Hang in there you have grown alot. Take care of yourself and your daughter.
