Quote: So my opinion stands. I'd like to see a man get up and strip or dance or slither and all the while wondering if your mate is going to pretend to be asleep or not noticing.
Doesn't making plans for and executing a romantic date, or going well out of his comfort zone to try to get her 'in the mood', all the while knowing that his chances of successfully bedding her at the end of the night without her saying I'm too tired, or lets wait until "later", or pretending to fall asleep, are near zero on a good day? I think both sides are equally hard, but granted, different.
As a guy, it can be near impossible to find the combination of words and actions to get his LDW into 'the mood' too, and forcing our way does as little for us as throwing yourself at your man does for you.
BTW, the stripping, dancing and slithering has no apparent effect on MrsGGB. I know, I've tried. OK, the slithering was a lame one, but nonetheless, it still didn't work. And my being nekid next to her has no more effect than cuddling up with dirty greasy overalls would. Tried that again yesterday afternoon after taking a shower. It was like she didn't even notice the nekidness.
hope your date went well! I know H has been on a hot streak this week, and I hope it is continuing. If not, then I guess you'll just have to tell the kids to make a bigger mess on Monday .
Hope your date turns into a wonderful night for you! Date night how sweet I have seen others mention it also. My H would go along with it but to plan it out that would never happen. So how awesome of your H.
I would say more but I am to busy chuckling at all the images from GGB post.(no offense GGB just reminded me of something that happened with my H)
Again HP hope your evening goes well. And I am really glad you have moved back over to the other side of the fence.
GGB, No I didn't mean "hard" in a competitive sense...only that, as a woman, more vulnerability is required of me to seduce him, than it is for a man. A man may have to run a bath for her, give her an hour massage, start slowly and deal with her rambling on about the kids, blah blah. I am NOT saying it is easy (and, in fact, I think the HDW's have an advantage over the HDH's in many cases).
However, my point was that if we are talking about seducing...the H's aren't up there shaking their groove thang, hoping that the wives will care. It takes a LOT of courage and confidence to strip yourself naked and get up in front of another person and hope that they care. It takes much less courage to give a backrub, or planning a date. Do you see what I mean? Being naked and/or doing a dance bares yourself in more than a physical sense--I am, in essence, saying 'this is me, this is my feminine self..my female identity'. It is crushing to be ignored, when one is in this state. It is NOT the same as being ignored after you've gone to all the trouble of planning a romantic date.
That's all I was saying.
However, like I said, in general I do believe that the HDW's may have it easier--overall--simply because we are, at the end of the day, dealing with men...men who presumably have the correct amount of testosterone in them so biology helps us out in that dept.
Do the words "easy, sexy, loving, smooth, caring, and hot" have anything to do with my situation? Why YES they do!
Had a great weekend folks.
Things are going smoothly and EASY. boy I can't stop saying that. I certainly hope that this is the start of a new thing with us. Having some EASE in this area of my life is long overdue.
The date was wonderful. OG MrHP pulled out all the stops. (Lou, that is a bit of teasin going on..he is normally very frugal like you) I was about to choke at the thought of ONE GLASS of wine costing 9 dollars but he didn't blink an eyeball when he ordered it for us. It was romantic and wonderful. We had a booth but I talked him into sitting on my side with me, so we could snuggle and be close and enjoy ourselves sans kids.
The next day I did a little GAL'ing and so it was an enjoyable weekend for all.
Keep your fingers crossed that we are able to keep the momentum going and that this is not some feast-induced drunken positivity going on. LOL
That is great. I sometimes choose to just enjoy the feast even if there is famine around the corner. Maybe, just maybe, Mr HP is starting to enjoy the feast enough to see it as a reasonable lifestyle even!
Gel, Yeah MrH pulls off a good date about once per year. I had been on him lately about us needing a date together. If you will remember, he is paranoid about leaving the kids with other people. So it limits my ability to plan anything--he refuses to go when the time comes, or is a sourpuss about it.
But.....he's been loosening up lately, I can see it in him in all areas.
Tomorrow I go on a mini-vacation with my sister and all of our crew. He will be home alone. He hates this and yet it's good for us--I like getting away and he is always so much more attentive when he's had some time to ruminate on life without me.
Thank you for the positive thoughts! I've only been yammering on about a date for two months so look how speedy that was. LOL
Take care and I am making the butternut squash tonight, finally! xo
You'll have to let me know how you like that recipe
BTW...did your family do anything for Halloween? I think I sent you pictures of my little guy in his costume....thrown together last minute by moi'! LOL
I know my H has it in him to do a romantic date...when we were dating he did, when he proposed he did...and he put effort into those dates as well. It's another one of those things where I know he has it in him...but he just doesn't do it.
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