GGB, No I didn't mean "hard" in a competitive sense...only that, as a woman, more vulnerability is required of me to seduce him, than it is for a man. A man may have to run a bath for her, give her an hour massage, start slowly and deal with her rambling on about the kids, blah blah. I am NOT saying it is easy (and, in fact, I think the HDW's have an advantage over the HDH's in many cases).
However, my point was that if we are talking about seducing...the H's aren't up there shaking their groove thang, hoping that the wives will care. It takes a LOT of courage and confidence to strip yourself naked and get up in front of another person and hope that they care. It takes much less courage to give a backrub, or planning a date. Do you see what I mean? Being naked and/or doing a dance bares yourself in more than a physical sense--I am, in essence, saying 'this is me, this is my feminine self..my female identity'. It is crushing to be ignored, when one is in this state. It is NOT the same as being ignored after you've gone to all the trouble of planning a romantic date.
That's all I was saying.
However, like I said, in general I do believe that the HDW's may have it easier--overall--simply because we are, at the end of the day, dealing with men...men who presumably have the correct amount of testosterone in them so biology helps us out in that dept.
