This is one of those instances where being a woman sucks. The guys can say "I'm 100% responsible for the sex I get" and know that they have to be forceful and confident and initiate. The women have to be naked and seducing and striking poses, doing dances, etc. Simply being confident and initiating is truly not enough. The level of vulnerability required is not comparable, imo
Oh jeez. My side hurts from laughing so hard now. (being a woman 'sucks' huh? LOL.)Its much more complex then what you said being a man. especially once you have lost, or given away your power or have a true LDW. It is definitely IYO. I have seen the abject terror of a man I tell to go up and simply say 'Hi, I liked the way you move. I wonder if you have a personality to go with it. Do you have email'?
It may seem easy to you to just say Lets get it on. But for a guy that has been beaten with the 'Men are pigs. they only want sex. women dont appreciate there sex drive' coupled with eradication of his manly attributes via media, workplace, and school, or even having summoned up the courage to initiate and be blown out it is a major deal.
Of coure this is not the case with you R, your H may lack some confidance simply because getting it on with you never requires any courage.
so when I tell you to make it harder its not game playing I am suggesting, it is a 'tactic' to engender certain feelings with certain, likely positive outcomes in him. You have to baby step some people thru some issues. So I think of it as --you would be acting as a great wife, with a great man improving each other.
Some may view it as manipulation or game playing. I like to be positive.
