Mrs, Yes it was absolutely done with a sense of humor and not vengefully. Don't get me wrong; I was irritated at the turn of events but I was NOT mad. In fact, as I noted, I had a bit of a twinkle in my eye...how could I not, watching him scan the scene in horror, lol. Since he knew this, that I was irritated, yes, but that I was also yanking his chain, well it drove home the point but in a way that was palatable to him.
Oh and I wanted to say that the driving force behind this silly move was this: He promised sex on Tues night, then when Tues came he said he was too sleepy and could we do it tomorrow. Then on Wednesday he said the same thing. Well that made me mad. It is disrespectful to me to keep putting me off, as if I am Mrs Roper or somethin. Then he picked a fight with me on Thurs about a funeral I had to attend and, boy, did things degenerate from there.
I needed a way to illustrate to him that marriage is somewhat of an agreement, a contract, to do right by each other. Things were simply too lopsided last week and this was the best way I could think to get his attention, and fast. Nothing makes him want to claw his eyes out like household messes.
Anyway, I won't be vengeful and hold this over his head or anything--not my style--but I will keep it in my repertoire when he seems to be backsliding a bit and forgetting that my needs are important too.
Oh and he is *very* helpful around the house. Just pitches in and does whatever needs to be done, so I have no complaints about this. I don't feel put out, despite the fact that I do the vast majority of housework (I am a hausfrau, after all), because he is so willing to do whatever I need.
Update: MrH is feasting. Karen will know exactly what I'm talkin about here. I'm dreading the famine but enjoying the delicious, lush, passionate feast that has been laid at my feet for the last 3 nights. Regarding my inner temptress..yeah, I've sorta let her go by the wayside. She just didn't net results often enough to keep her on the payroll, kwim. My confidence is way up, due to the abovementioned feast, so we'll see about her.
This is one of those instances where being a woman sucks. The guys can say "I'm 100% responsible for the sex I get" and know that they have to be forceful and confident and initiate. The women have to be naked and seducing and striking poses, doing dances, etc. Simply being confident and initiating is truly not enough. The level of vulnerability required is not comparable, imo.
Anyhoo, things are going splendidly here!
H came home yesterday and had planned a date, arranged a babysitter, etc, for tomorrow night. I was SO surprised! We need the time together so badly, as I'm sure all couples of young children do.
Thank you all for weighing in. Have a good weekend!
Oh and Hairy, I will be coming to KC next week. I would drop in and don my invisibility cloak but I'll have the 3 beastie girls with me.
