Quote: As some of you know, MrH is a clean freak. This used to be a bone of contention between us until I just started cleaning every day and keeping everything shipshape. Until yesterday. I looked around and thought wtf am I doing? For 6 years (ever since I quit my job) I have been meeting this need for him, regardless of what he does in return, simply because it is the right thing to do. WHY. So I let the kids trash the house and I even added some considerable mess of my own. And I left it all.
HP, I really think this was a brilliant thing to do. When it comes to household chores, no matter whether it's husband or wife, when one spouse does the majority of them and when it is done well, it can often be totally ignored by the other spouse. It only comes to their attention when it isn't done or done well.