honey wrote
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MB is just out. It's a mortal sin. No priest is going to give me the green light

MB is SOLITARY SEX. What I'm suggesting is not SOLITARY. The point of making MB wrong is when it deliberately 1) thwarts the reproductive process or 2) separates the couple from each other.

I think you're blowing this option off way too soon and without enough investigation.

Now IF the root problem is that it bugs you that he does not look at sex or experience the arousal process the way you do, then the mb-while-together thing is beside the point. Somehow you have to get okay with the way he approaches sex.

BUT if, as you said in response to my question, that the problem is that you don't get to reach true physical satiation, the mb-while-together could solve that prob without you spending the next 40 years being irritated that he's not as sexual as you OR pushing him to be something he's never gonna be.

Believe me, if a Church can figure out how to annul 40-year marriages that have produced six children, or change eating meat on Friday from a mortal sin to NO sin, there's a way to make it okay for you to have an O without your H's d*ck inside of you.

It seems to me that you can't stay in this itchy-irritated state forever, and he can't always go around feeling that no matter how hard he tries, he's not sexy enough for you. Is this really the way it has to be?

Go ahead and tell me to back off one more time if you must, but please really think this through. (And yes, this does hit a hot button of mine, but the fact that it does and that I'm writing this in a strident tone does not negate the truth of what I'm saying.)