Yes, Lillie, I meant that every 3 days does not physically satisfy me. It leaves me feeling uncomfortably horny, basically just unsated. We have discussed this and he understands how I am.
Lately he has been doing really good at showing me his horniness. I am 100% certain this is because the frequency has gone down to a level where he is seeking me out because he is horny and not just because he has to "keep momma happy". (his icky words)
There were times when we were doing it at his frequency level and he would not show me this desire so this is progress for him. He even said today that he's been making an effort to let me know when sexual thoughts cross his mind and I told him I appreciate it.
So.................... It looks as if I can have horniness and a frequency level that doesn't cut it for me; OR, the frequency that is fine but not the accompanying horniness.
I agree with all of you who are saying that this is pretty damn good. I am leaning towards acceptance but it is so hard. It really is unsatisfying to me and, yes Lil, it is that darn Catholic thing of no MB that complicates matters so much. I am dependent on him and he knows it. I guess there is a part of me that wants him to be more sensitive to this aspect of things but one can't have everything. %&#$!
Blackfoot, his diet is pretty good. His life stresses the crap out of him. Hates his job, kids drive him crazy. Religion (and me) is his refuge. He loves to lift weights but doesn't feel he has time to fit in into his day. Truly, if one has 3 kids and a stressful job AND insists on going to bed at 9:00, it IS hard.
He has a healthy outlook (now) as far as sex is concerned. He doesn't think it is solely for procreation.
Lastly, I mb a lot as a single gal and a lot as a married gal, even, up until last year when I gave it up. My drive is not so much driven by wanting him to want me, though that is a lot of it.
